Author Archives: Paul Asay
Matthew Warren and Space to Grieve
Kay and I often marveled at his courage to keep moving in spite of relentless pain. I\’ll never forget how, many years ago, after another approach had failed to give relief, Matthew said \” Dad, I know I\’m going to heaven. Why can\’t I just die and end this pain?\” but he kept going for another decade.
You can find, among hundreds of comments on USA TODAY\’s news story on Matthew\’s death, comments such as the Cincinnati poster who says, \”Either there is no God, or God doesn\’t listen to Rick Warren, despite all the money Rick has made off of selling false hope to desperate people.\” In another comment, the same poster counsels Warren to \”abandon primitive superstitions and accept the universe for what it is — a place that is utterly indifferent to us.\”
If You Love Something, Keep It Free
After-Easter Stitches
You know it’s going to be a rough day when, first thing in the morning, someone carves a chunk of skin out of your arm.
And when you pay someone to do it? Well, that’s even worse.
Yeah, that\’s the way my day began this morning. You can see the resulting handiwork in the picture. I\’m hoping the eventual scar winds up looking cool and manly. Perhaps I can tell people that I received it swordfighting or something, when the truth will be far more prosaic.
A few weeks ago, my dermatologist informed me that a bothersome mole would have to go. I was a little surprised, given that the mole had been with me for much of my adult life and it had never expressed discontent with his situation. It was not particularly troublesome, nor (as moles go) even all that ugly. The only time it ever seemed at all peevish was shortly after my dermatologist performed a tiny biopsy on part of it. After that, it turned red, one can only assume from anger.
My dermatologist didn\’t like the look of the thing at all. And after the results of the biopsy came back, he said the mole would have to be forcibly evicted from my arm. It wasn\’t cancerous, he said: Not yet. But it was \”atypical,\” and it was displaying a particularly fearsome form of atypical-ness. Which leads me to believe that my mole was the anatomical equivalent of a quiet, unassuming neighbor that one day, out of the blue, drags all of his living room furniture out on the front lawn and sets it on fire. So with that in mind, I let the doctor excise a diamond-shaped section of skin about the size of a quarter. Then he stitched the thing up like a medieval purse and sent me on my way.
Technically, the little out-patient operation wasn\’t that big of a deal at all–less serious, maybe, than getting a tooth filled. (It was certainly less painful.) I know people deal with far worse things. But even so, it\’s left me feeling a little frail. I\’ve been told not to lift anything over 10 pounds. Technically, I shouldn\’t run for two weeks (which\’ll put a serious crimp in my marathon training). And even though the mole wasn\’t yet cancerous, it\’s strange, and a little disturbing, to think of your own body working against you. It\’s like having a sleeper cell on your body, scheming away.
When we\’re reasonably healthy and happy, it\’s easy to forget that we\’re quite frail creatures. I felt my weakness after running this weekend. I sensed my own fragility while watching basketball yesterday—when Louisville’s Kevin Ware suffered a catastrophic injury doing something as routine as jumping.
But maybe that’s part of the poignancy and beauty of Easter, just now passed. Jesus was weak, just as we all are. He hurt, just like we do. He bled when beaten, struggled for breath on the cross and died—just as we all someday will. I have a hard time wrapping my mind around why He had to suffer so … but maybe part of it was to remind us all not only of His human frailty, but ours. He reminded us that, sometimes, circumstances can swamp us. Our human strength can only take us so far—and in times of crisis, that’s not necessarily very far at all.
“Frail,” by Jars of Clay, is one of my favorite songs, beautiful and true:
If I was not so weak
If I was not so cold
If I was not so scared of being broken
Growing old
I would be … frail.
And yet God—indescribably great, unfathomably powerful—works through weakness. Almost every biblical hero you can think of came from ignominy or dealt with near-crippling flaws. And Easter is a continuation of that.
On Good Friday, we commemorated not just a death, but a humiliation: A man stretched out in the most vulnerable pose imaginable, exposed to the elements and abuse and ridicule. Crucifixion was designed, it would seem, to humiliate. To exploit human weakness. To take would-be heroes or martyrs and turn them into pitiable, prosaic lumps of flesh.
And on Easter, we celebrated. In that moment of ultimate weakness came eternal triumph. Crazy.
We are weak creatures, yes. But God can do remarkable things in our frailty. And even as I’m reminded a bit of my own weakness, I’m reminded that God sometimes does his best work through folks as weak and as whiny as I am.
Marcus Mumford and the Christian Clique
Marcus Mumford isn\’t a Christian. So he says.
The lead singer for the Grammy-winning Mumford & Sons talks about God, faith and whatnot in the April issue of Rolling Stone. And even though he\’s the son of the founders of Great Britain\’s evangelical Vineyard movement, and even though the group\’s lyrics are saturated with themes of faith and redemption, sin and salvation, Mumford avoids the whole \”Christian\” label.
He says:
I don\’t really like that word. It comes with so much baggage. So, no, I wouldn\’t call myself a Christian. I think the word just conjures up all these religious images that I don\’t really like.
Those three sentences have already stirred quite the reaction from Christians who love both Jesus and Mumford & Sons. A couple of thoughtful reactions can be found here and here, but it seems that most Christians are saying something like this: Marcus, I get it. I really do. Christians can be kinda lousy at showing the world what Jesus was all about. But you can\’t just hang out with Jesus and ignore all his sometimes inconvenient followers. It doesn\’t work that way. As Matthew Linder wrote in his nice piece on patheos.com:
It is much easier to take the route of “I just love Jesus” or “Jesus is a cool dude” in a culture that would mostly concur with that sentiment. Accepting the label of Christian is difficult, especially when we inhabit a post-Christian culture, but one that I will gladly take on, as should all of us who love Jesus.
I get, and I agree, with Linder\’s point. For years, I was a lot like Mumford–loving Jesus (in my own stunted way) but reluctant to associate myself with the other \”Christians\” that I knew (or thought I knew). It just wasn\’t a group I wanted to be associated with. I wanted to get to heaven. But kinda hoped that, once there, I\’d be able to hang out in my own little heavenly neighborhood–away from the sorts of Christians who annoyed me.
And, honestly, I haven\’t quite outgrown that arrogance. There are days when I might hear somebody say something I disagree with and I think, \”do I really share a faith with this person?\”
On the surface, I think most of us Christians (particularly in protestant, evangelical circles) view Christianity as a kind of club. It\’s not a particularly picky club: You don\’t have to pay dues or do community service or anything (though all that, of course, is appreciated). As long as you accept a few basic premises–that Jesus died for your sins and rose from the grave is a biggie–you\’re in. And from then on, no one can revoke your membership.
But in practice, sometimes we Christians can treat Christianity more like a clique. Or, rather, a collection of them. And those of us who hang out in one clique point to the others and whisper snide comments to our friends. Because our clique, naturally, must be more Christian than the others.
I\’ve heard that you can\’t possibly be that Christian if you vote for a Democrat, or a Republican, or if you drink, or if you see R-rated movies, or if you or prefer hymns or don\’t keep a prayer journal or like reality television or commit any number of ethical, intellectual or social sins. I\’m irked by this attitude. And yet, the very fact I\’m irked can push me into a clique of my own. I\’m not like those Christians, I might grumble deep in my gut somewhere. I\’m different. Less judgmental. Better. Which naturally, makes me just as judgmental and no better at all. It seems that many of us are forever carving heaven up into cliquish neighborhoods
And yet, when you mingle amongst these various cliques–as I\’ve had a chance to do in my career–you find that in every one of them there are folks who love God and Jesus passionately.
I think that Marcus Mumford is critiquing our cliquish culture–even as he forms a bit of a clique of his own. And here\’s the funny thing: I think most Christians would feel like they\’d fit in just fine in Mumford\’s little circle. Of all the Christians I\’ve talked to, almost every single one has lamented the hypocrisy seen in Christianity–the baggage that our glorious faith has been so burdened by.
I don\’t know where Mumford\’s faith stands. I have no way of judging his or anyone else\’s relationship with God or Jesus. Sometimes, it doesn\’t feel like I\’m in a great position to judge my own. But I do believe that, whatever religious cliques we affiliate with within Christianity, we\’re also part of the same messy family. And I wouldn\’t have it any other way.
Would Superman Wear Superman Boxers?
So I was putting on my favorite pair of superhero boxers the other day, and I began to wonder: If Superman was in need of new underwear and he happened to see a pair of Superman-themed boxers in his local Walmart, would he buy them? Or would that be too weird?
This is not the first time I\’ve asked myself questions along the same lines. Oh, not about underwear: I rarely get too obsessive about underwear. At least not to write a blog about.
But if clothes do make the man, what happens if a man wears clothes that have an image of the self-same man? Or even a symbol of that self-same man? Would it be unseemly, for instance, for Tim Tebow to buy a Tim Tebow replica NFL jersey? Does Jacqueline Smith actually wear Jacqueline Smith-branded clothing from Kmart? Would Che Guevara, if he were not dead, be comfortable wearing a designer Che Guevara T-shirt?
Once upon a time, I would\’ve said that few celebrities would wear something so obviously connected with their celebrity. It would feel just too self-promotional. But that was before the Kardashians rose to power. Now everyone knows that promoting one\’s personal brand is practically a full-time occupation, no matter how bizarre it might feel.
Truth be told, I once when into a Barnes and Noble branch and bought one of my own books. It doesn\’t make much sense, really: I\’ve got a box of the self-same books in my closet, and even if I didn\’t, I could probably just write the whole thing again if I was really desperate to read it again. But still, I figured that buying my own book might trigger a sudden sales riot: \”Why, look at that wonderful book that man is buying!\” I hoped to hear people say. \”I must get one, too!\”
Alas, I did not trigger a riot. No one even recognized my picture on the back of the book. Another branding experiment gone awry.
But back to the point.
Superman doesn\’t seem like he\’d be interested in promoting his own Super brand. He doesn\’t seem to need the money, and he would be quite famous enough for lifting aircraft carriers and flying and stuff. And, unlike many reality stars, he doesn\’t seem the sort to bear his underwear in order to increase his, ahem, exposure.
As such, I\’m almost positive that he, as Superman, would never buy himself Superman underwear at Walmart–not even if it was the only underwear left. And if someone gave branded underwear to him as a gift or part of a sponsorship package, he would likely try to give them away–to some sort of underwear-poor country in South America, perhaps. He\’s a modest fellow.
But Clark Kent–now, that\’s a different story. Superman\’s alter-ego might well buy Superman underwear. Indeed, he might actually seek it out. After all, any Lex or Lois would know that Superman would never, ever wear Superman underwear. Which would make Superman underwear a perfect disguise for Clark Kent. It would fool even more people than those glasses of his.
Batman, on the other hand … It\’d really be just an extension of all of his Bat-branded doodads: The Batmobile, the Batcave, The Bat-copter, the Batpole, the Batphone, The Bat-asprin located in his Bat-medicine cabinet in his Batroom. He\’d buy Batman underwear in a Bat-flash.
Yeah, let\’s face it. Batman may be a tortured soul, but he knows all about branding.
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Jack the Giant Slayer: A Giant Leap
There are two basic ways to \”interpret\” story: You can try to decipher what the storyteller (be they writer or moviemaker or whatever) intentionally put there. You can determine what you, yourself, get from it.
Both have value, and both, of course, often go hand in hand. When a storyteller explicitly tells you the moral of The Three Little Pigs, most folks ain\’t gonna start mulling postmodern, Freudian interpretations of \”chinny-chin-chin.\” Steven Spielberg\’s Lincoln is meant to give us a picture of a courageous, surprisingly complex man who bent a few rules to realize a much greater good. And you know, that\’s pretty much what most of the folks who saw Lincoln came away with.
But sometimes, we can get added value by drawing out some themes or \”messages\” unintended by the storyteller.
Take, for instance, the newly released Jack the Giant Slayer.
The movie kinda sorta follows the old fairy tale most of us are familiar with–with a few twists here and there. Jack trades his horse for a handful of magic beans. As I write in my Plugged In review:
It\’s really the most impractical trade imaginable, given that the monk [who gives Jack the beans] cautions Jack to keep the legumes far away from water. That sorta nixes the idea of Jack planting them, eating them or even setting them on the edge of the local wave pool while he goes for swim. But Jack—a trusting sort of lad—accepts the beans anyway.
His significantly more cynical uncle (with whom Jack lives) is horrified at the trade. And in a fit of anger, he flings the beans across their hovel, where one slips through a crack in the floor. We can\’t buy thatch for the roof with beans! He hollers. And he stomps off.
Shortly thereafter, a storm descends upon the kingdom, water spilling through all those unthatched holes in Jack\’s roof. And wouldn\’t you know it, Princess Isabelle, running away from an unjust marriage and to some grand adventure, runs right into Jack\’s house—just before a rivulet of water touches that magical bean underneath the floorboards. Before you can say \”Fee! Fi! Fo! Fum!\” Jack\’s house shoots straight up to the land of the giants with Isabelle in tow.
This, of course, thrills the giants to no end. After all, it\’s not every day a princess comes over for dinner.
These giants are horrific dudes who belch and fart and pick their noses. The whole giant kingdom looks like the worst frat house you could imagine. And to make matters worse, the giants just love to chow down on human flesh.
Thankfully in ages past, humankind made a crown that could control the giants. And while an evil guy named Roderick tries to use the crown for his own unsavory plot, the headgear eventually–when used wisely–saves mankind.
Admittedly, I have no idea what sort of \”moral\” or \”message\” Jack\’s makers might\’ve been trying to give us. Don\’t let your vegetable gardens get overgrown, perhaps? Move to Arizona, where clouds would hardly ever hide floating countries populated by giants? Be wary of folks with two heads?
But there is a deeper message that one can draw out of here (if one really has to because one hasn\’t written a blog post all week).
Say we looked at the giants not as giants, but as humankind\’s more animalistic natures–the monsters lurking in each of us. They are real and powerful and can, at times, overwhelm us. Maybe sometimes our more civilized instincts try to push these impulses away, to where when we\’re in our right minds, they may feel almost imaginary. But they\’re never that far away. Just a push (via an overactive beanstalk, perhaps), and they\’ll invade. And if we don\’t master them, they can destroy us.
But we do have power over them–not a magic crown that rests on our heads, but what rests inside them. Sometimes, when intellect and reason is decoupled from our core values, as it was in Roderick\’s case, it can actually harness those horrific impulses and make them ever-more dangerous. But when we have purpose and principle to go along with our reason, these giants of ours can be subdued.
Let me offer a spoiler warning right now, because the kicker, for me, comes at the end.
When Jack finally subjugates the giants and becomes king, he hides the magic crown in plain sight. He has the thing adorned with the trappings of traditional, European royalty–including crosses and other symbols of Christian faith. It\’s important to note that throughout the movie, we see and hear repeated references to God and religion–our Babel-like desire to scale the beanstalk to heaven, the black magic of the beans–suggesting that Jack\’s world is one in which faith is taken seriously. The crown becomes not just a symbol of reason, but of religion, and how the two work together to help us become better people.
A stretch? Yeah, perhaps. Again, I doubt the filmmakers had anything like this in mind when they made the movie. But it\’s a fair one, don\’t you think?













